"I can't seem to get focused" is the number one comment I've been hearing
from clients and colleagues recently. There are some excellent reasons we don't
get focused or stay focused on what is most important to us. Some of these are:
e) We are so busy that we stay on the surface of life, just trying to get
through the day
Why don't you feel focused on what you most care about? Do any of the above
possibilities resonate with you? Or are there reasons I haven't listed that are
what allow your energy to be scattered? Please let me know what you discover
when you think about this!
Tips For Getting, and Staying, Focused
I have found that when someone makes the decision to get focused, there are
several things that make the shift easier and more lasting. It can make a
difference when...
a) You want to live your life with more of a purpose. When you turn
toward something positive, as opposed to only turning away from the negative,
you quickly build up momentum. The usual distractions and other elements that
drain your energy will still be there, but you will have a reason to stay
focused. This makes it easier to ignore the distractions.
b) You work to gain some insight into why you struggle to focus.
Knowing yourself allows you to identify what gets in your way, and then you can
step back and look at these issues in a more detached and objective way. Instead
of getting frustrated that there isn't enough time in your day, or getting swept
up in the flood of your activities, you can keep a healthy perspective on what
is pulling you in and how you would like to respond.
c) You pay attention to how you spend your time and stop allowing yourself
to waste time on unworthy projects. If your teenager had a big test
tomorrow, and you saw her doing everything but study, you'd probably share some
words of wisdom with her about planning to use her time properly and your
concern that she is wasting the time she needs to use to study. How can you make
sure that you first take care of what you most need to do? What advice would you
give your daughter or best friend?
Contrary to popular belief, down-time is not wasted time. But spending your
most valuable resource (time) on something that is not extremely important to
you is a waste of time.
d) You stand for something. Getting focused has a lot to do with your
mission. Your mission should be the foundation of your various intentions and
actions. If you spend your time, attention, and other resources on what furthers
your mission, you will feel productive and you will feel that you are spending
your time well. (A previous newsletter focused on mission statements. Let me
know if you'd like me to send that issue to you.)
e) You create conditions in your life to allow you to focus on what you
most care about:
- Eliminate unnecessary activities
- Reduce your overhead
- Learn to enjoy down-time without feeling "unproductive"
- Don't do projects simply because you feel obligated to do them
- Don't say yes to anything right away (You'll really thank me for this
tip!)
- Let others know what your mission is so they can send opportunities your
way
- And most importantly, know what your priorities are so that you can make
them your focus
If you try these tips, you should notice some changes right away. But if you
follow this method for three months, you will feel more productive, energized,
and focused!
Leslie Godwin, MFCC is a Career & Life-Transition Coach,
Writer, and Speaker. She publishes a free email newsletter on career and life
transition. For information, email
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