Minding Your Global Manners
by Lydia Ramsey
To say that today's business environment is becoming increasingly more global
is to state the obvious. Meetings, phone calls and conferences are held all over
the world and attendees can come from any point on the globe. On any given
business day you can find yourself dealing face-to-face, over the phone, by
e-mail and, on rare occasions, by postal letter with people whose customs and
cultures differ your own. You may never have to leave home to interact on an
international level.
While the old adage "When in Rome, do as the Romans do" still holds true,
business clients and colleagues who are visiting this country should be treated
with sensitivity and with an awareness of their unique culture. Not to do your
homework and put your best international foot forward can cost you relationships
and future business. One small misstep such as using first names
inappropriately, not observing the rules of timing or sending the wrong color
flower in the welcome bouquet can be costly.
There is no one set of rules that applies to all international visitors so do
the research for each country that your clients represent. That may sound like a
daunting task, but taken in small steps, it is manageable and the rewards are
worth the effort. Keeping in mind that there are as many ways to do business as
there are countries to do business with, here are a few tips for minding your
global P's and Q's.
Building relationships: Few other people are as eager to get down to
business as we Americans. So take time to get to know your international clients
and build rapport before you rush to the bottom line. Business relationships are
built on trust that is developed over time, especially with people from Asia and
Latin America.
Dressing conservatively: Americans like to dress for fashion and
comfort, but people from other parts of the world are generally more
conservative. Your choice of business attire is a signal of your respect for the
other person or organization. Leave your trendy clothes in the closet on the
days that you meet with your foreign guests.
Observe the hierarchy: It is not always a simple matter to know who is
the highest-ranking member when you are dealing with a group. To avoid
embarrassment, err on the side of age and masculine gender, only if you are
unable to discover the protocol with research. If you are interacting with the
Japanese, it is important to understand that they make decisions by consensus,
starting with the younger members of the group. By contrast, Latin people have a
clear hierarchy that defers to age.
Understanding the handshake: With a few exceptions, business people
around the world use the handshake for meeting and greeting. However, the
American style handshake with a firm grip, two quick pumps, eye contact and a
smile is not universal. Variations in handshakes are based on cultural
differences, not on personality or values. The Japanese give a light handshake.
Germans offer a firm shake with one pump, and the French grip is light with a
quick pump. Middle Eastern people will continue shaking your hand throughout the
greeting. Don't be surprised if you are occasionally met with a kiss, a hug, or
a bow somewhere along the way.
Using titles and correct forms of address: We are very informal in the
United States and are quick to call people by their first name. Approach first
names with caution when dealing with people from other cultures. Use titles and
last names until you have been invited to use the person's first name. In some
cases, this may never occur. Use of first names is reserved for family and close
friends in some cultures.
Titles are given more significance around the world than in the United States
and are another important aspect of addressing business people. Earned academic
degrees are acknowledged. For example, a German engineer is addressed as "Herr
Ingenieur" and a professor as "Herr Professor". Listen carefully when you are
introduced to someone and pay attention to business cards when you receive them.
Exchanging business cards: The key to giving out business cards in any
culture is to show respect for the other person. Present your card so that the
other person does not have to turn it over to read your information. Use both
hands to present your card to visitors from Japan, China, Singapore, or Hong
Kong. When you receive someone else's business card, always look at it and
acknowledge it. When you put it away, place it carefully in your card case or
with your business documents. Sticking it haphazardly in your pocket is
demeaning to the giver. In most cases, wait until you have been introduced to
give someone your card.
Valuing time: Not everyone in the world is as time conscious as
Americans. Don't take it personally if someone from a more relaxed culture keeps
you waiting or spends more of that commodity than you normally would in meetings
or over meals. Stick to the rules of punctuality, but be understanding when your
contact from another country seems unconcerned.
Honoring space issues: Americans have a particular value for their own
physical space and are uncomfortable when other people get in their realm. If
the international visitor seems to want to be close, accept it. Backing away can
send the wrong message. So can touching. You shouldn't risk violating someone
else's space by touching them in any way other than with a handshake.
Whether the world comes to you or you go out to it, the greatest compliment
you can pay your international clients is to learn about their country and their
customs. Understand differences in behavior and honor them with your actions.
Don't take offense when visitors behave according to their norms. People from
other cultures will appreciate your efforts to accommodate them and you will
find yourself building your international clientele.
(c) 2005, Lydia Ramsey.
Lydia
Ramsey is a business etiquette expert, professional speaker, corporate trainer
and author of
MANNERS THAT SELL – ADDING THE POLISH THAT BUILDS PROFITS. She has been
quoted or featured in The Wall Street Journal, Investors’ Business Daily,
Cosmopolitan and Woman’s Day. For more information about her
programs, products and services, e-mail her at
lydia@mannersthatsell.com or
visit her web site:
www.mannersthatsell.com
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