And sometimes they have a legitimate beef AND they handled it fine, but you just
didn't want to hear it. An example of this is some of the criticism I've gotten
from some of my stories. The people were thoughtful and absolutely right. And I
hated them. (Until I got over myself and slunk back to the keyboard to make the
edits.)
Now the third option doesn't happen too often (unless you're a fiction
writer) but the first two do. You just have to see it for what it is. If there's
something buried in the anger and name-calling you can use to improve your
products, services or business, by all means use it. But know the rest of it has
absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.
(And you'll know when the criticism is right. Trust me. Your gut will tell
you.)
3. Be kind to yourself. When these things happen, it can hurt. And
that's okay. Call a friend. Or better yet, your mother (if you can). Write about
it in your journal. Take a walk. Don't bury your feelings, let yourself feel bad
and then let it go. Don't tell yourself it doesn't matter and let it fester
inside you, deal with it. Get it out of you. And then let it go.
4. Let someone else deal with these things. Whenever possible, have
someone else in your business be a filter for stuff like this. Let other people
take care of refund requests or just read the nasty emails and they can decide
if there's a legitimate complaint buried in there or not. Protect yourself,
there's no need for you to see everything or deal with everything. Yes you'll
have to step in if something big happens, but let other people take care of the
small stuff. The small stuff is what wears you down anyway. Save yourself for
the big things and don't worry about the rest.
Michele PW (Michele Pariza Wacek) is your Ka-Ching!
marketing strategist and owns Creative Concepts and Copywriting LLC, a
copywriting and marketing agency. She helps entrepreneurs become more
successful at attracting more clients, selling more products and services
and boosting their business. Visit her site at
http://www.MichelePW.com