In Tough Times-Silence Is NOT Golden
by Eileen McDargh
In the face of this severe, take-no-prisoners economic downturn, far too many
organizations are responding in knee-jerk reaction to the thought of holding all
but the smallest of meetings. Training budgets are slashed. Employees hunker
behind their desk, hoping that no one from HR can find them or else they're
huddled around a PDA, text messaging about possible layoff scenarios, pending
mergers, or hiring freezes. Performance? Productivity? I think not.
Now more than ever, managers at all levels of the organization need to do that
which separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom: TALK!
Here's why:
(1) In the absence of information, we connect the dots in the most
pathological way possible.
(2) E-mail works fine for data but when emotions are involved, only
face-to-face really carries the day
(3) There's a huge benefit when people gather to share ideas, brainstorm new
procedures, learn more about team members, have questions answered, or explore
ways to streamline work loads.
(4) Smart companies will use this downtime to cross train, to coach for
performance and career development, and involve employees in corporate
decisions.
(5) Diverse perspectives are critical for innovation and these are best
gleaned through conversation.
Bottom Line: The organization will have a solid, committed employee base,
poised to move into front position when the turnaround comes.
But this will only happen if TALK becomes the preferred vehicle of
communication.
Four Communication strategies to increase your Talk Quotient (TQ).
Strategy # 1: Conduct a Talking Stick Meeting
A talking stick meeting allows everyone to hear a wide variety of ideas and
inputs because each person who "holds the stick" is assured free speech, no
reprisals, no humiliations, and no interruptions. Many native American tribes
used the stick as a way of allowing all voices to be heard.
Talking Stick Meeting Checklist:
(1) Create a focus question to present to the group, assuring them that all
are invited to speak, without interruption or humiliation.
(2) Form a real circle with everyone in the circle. This brings equality
(3) When everyone who wishes to has spoken, summarize the conversation and
what you will do with the information.
Strategy # 2: Seek Out the "Orange Batons"
If you happen to get a window seat on a plane that is coming into the
terminal, look out and find the man or woman who is guiding a 737 aircraft
(weighing over 90,710 pounds) into position. Those small orange batons wield
plenty of authority in the moment. And well they should.
You see, there's a line painted on the tarmac to show exactly where the front
wheel of the 737 MUST stop. Otherwise, passengers at the gate literally would
have a pilot in their laps. The problem: the pilot sits too high to see that
line. The pilot depends upon the "orange Batons" -those closest to the
situation-to move the craft into position.
Everyone has orange batons in the workplace. The higher up an organization a
manager sits, the more crucial is the conversation. As customers, we've all been
privy to disgruntled customer service reps who can't help us because senior
managers have created practices that tie their hands. Recently, I asked to speak
to the support service personnel on a Delta Sky Miles Account. The agent
informed me that even THEY can't TALK to support personnel. "We can only use FAX
and Courier service," was the response. I was angry and so was the agent. "They"
had made decisions without asking the Orange Batons what the ramifications might
be.
Strategy # 3: Pay Attention to Little Davids
When Patrick Harker, now the former Dean of Wharton School, was asked what
made the critical difference in the school's most successful fund-raising
campaign ($425 million in six years), he replied that he made it a priority to
engage the next generation of alumni leadership.
Listening to the voice of David is a tradition from the Middle Ages and the
Benedictines. The abbot of a monastery made decisions after getting the input
from all the monks, beginning with the youngest monk. Had the elders in the Old
Testament listened to the young kid with the slingshot, the giant Goliath would
have been dispatched quickly. Little David was right, but it took time for the
tribe to understand that young (or new) did not mean "unskilled."
Who are the newest and/or youngest on the team-your David's? It is often the
newest members who ask the most discerning questions. They are not jaded by
politics, the past, or protocol. Ask them for their opinions. Tell them that you
expect them to teach you something at the end of three months. I guarantee that
those employees will search high and wide to bring you innovation or, at the
very least, an insight into some of your procedures, products, or services.
"Words of wisdom are spoken by children at least as often as scientists."
-James Newman, American Astronaut
Strategy # 4: Laughter Lifts the Load
In tough times, humor is an essential survival skill. Talk can also be funny.
Not the sarcastic biting humor of put-downs and inside jokes, but rather the
humor that can lighten a difficult situation or put something in perspective.
A travel agency was known for helping its agents get through difficult
customers by awarding the Order of the SALMON. At the end of the week, agents
would know which agent had the most challenging week with customers yet still
managed to keep a positive interaction going.
With much fanfare, the agent explained the challenge and was urged to
exaggerate and use as much humor as possible. She was then awarded a plastic
salmon for her ability to SWIM UP STREAM. Being able to talk about the week,
laugh at the difficulties, and be rewarded for staying calm helped generate both
fun and connection within the office.
Laughter can put people at ease if it is used to acknowledge what everyone is
thinking. I was asked to speak at a convention in which the main session room
temperature hovered around 50 degrees. People were wrapped in tablecloths. By
the end of the second day, it still had not warmed up. When it was my turn to
talk, I welcomed them by saying, "Welcome to the land of the frozen chosen."
Gales of laughter and applause burst out. It made a point. The attendees were
CHOSEN to be there. It was a privilege.
Humor also lets us divide the serious from the mundane. Yes-the room was way
too cold. But in the scheme of things, it was not as important as gathering to
work out a new marketing strategy. Humor can also point out the trite and the
silly things we all do in work, relieve tension, and probably improve a process.
When one group acted out a very funny skit around the various voice mail doom
loops a customer had to go through in order to get to a human being, everyone
laughed...and the system changed in short order.
Break the Silence
The last challenge will be pulling people away from their PDAs and text
messaging to actually have a conversation. A number of organizations are
experimenting with "topless" meetings-as in laptop-less meetings. San Francisco
design firm, Adaptive Path, has also put a crackdown on "crackberries", as
President Todd Wilkens calls them in his company-wide blog. He claims that
people now look each other in the eye, develop closer connections and meetings
are more productive.
Productivity? Performance? If the talk quotient is increase, you bet. Talk
might very well become the golden key.
(c) 2009, McDargh Communications.
Eileen McDargh is founder of McDargh Communications, a
consulting and training company specializing in inner and interpersonal skill
development for the purpose of improving the life of a business and the business
of life. Visit Eileen at
http://www.EileenMcDargh.com or
http://www.theresilientspirit.com.
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