How to Network if You're Shy
by Josiah Mackenzie
One of the biggest deterrents to effective networking is shyness and
the lack of confidence to get out there and meet new people. Even if you
consider yourself a naturally outgoing person, you've probably had
moments where the thought of entering a room full of strangers made you
nervous.
First, you need to realize that the majority of people are shy - at
least in certain situations. You're not the only one! I've found that
once you adopt this realization, it does wonders for you. See that
executive standing by himself? Deep beneath all the power and prestige
there's probably a shy man wishing and waiting for someone to strike up
a conversation with him.
Next, practice your networking skills with friends and family. Make a
list of all the people you see frequently, but maybe haven't had the
chance to talk with recently. As the situation permits, practice the art
of small talk with these people who you know are friendly toward you.
The same skills you use with your family and friends can be used for
"friends you haven't met yet."
Another good tactic is to find someone who is naturally extroverted,
and get him or her to introduce you to others. This works well for two
reasons. First, it will be much easier to meet new people. Your friend
will act as the link between you and the person you're meeting -
providing information and getting a conversation started. Second, your
talkative friend will help cover any awkward gaps in conversation.
Networking with an extroverted friend can be helpful at first, but
you can't rely on them forever. Eventually, you'll have to step out on
your own and do the meeting yourself.
When that time comes, I suggest you look for the wallflowers.
Wallflowers are other shy people who like to stand by themselves, away
from others. People like the shy executive I used as an illustration
earlier are just waiting for others to come and talk with them. Be that
person and reap the rewards!
If you don't want to be always seeking others out, position yourself
so they come to you. Put yourself in situations that force you to meet
new people. Work at a reception desk. Offer to be a greeter for an
event. You'll find it very easy to talk with people when they come to
you.
Finally, I would encourage you to continually develop your
conversational skills. By reading a couple good books on the art of
talking with others you'll develop your ability to effectively
communicate with others. I guarantee that when you come to an event with
five fail-proof ways to start a conversation, you'll be far more
confident when it comes time to enter a room full of new people.
You can reach Josiah Mackenzie via email at
projos@gmail.com or visit his web
site at
http://www.mypalpad.com.
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